Does size matter?

I've just pulled up my chair whilst I have myself a up of hot chocolate - yes, I know, hardly hip and all hat jazz, but I am an almost old lady now. And, I rather enjoy hot chocolate.

But anyways, the thoughts I wanted to share was the one my friends and I have been discussing this evening. Penis size. I was telling them about some views on the subject I found on another blog, and it ended up kicking off into quite an open discussion. Two men, two women and one hetero couple and a whole lot of opinions.

I think size does matter. It does to me. I'll be honest and say I don't want to find myself having sex with a man with a 4inch appendage. Nor do I want to find myself with 8+ scary inches staring at me. Its a happy medium, but I would rather err on the side of a little too large, than a little too small. But strangely I don't really know where I've come up with this criteria. I've always had partners pretty much in the 'average' range. Maybe small does feel equally nice, especially when you think alot of the sensitivity is infact around the front of the vagina. However, there is also something to be said about length and that feeling of being...full. I've never dated anyone who seemed extraordinarily large either, and this is the crux of the matter...I've never gone around measuring my partners either. Okay, I confess, I did once measure Husband #1 with the tv remote control, but that was the closest I came to measuring his buddy. How do we know what average is? It seems to differ depending on where you get your information from. Some say 5.5inches, others 6.5.....I've always thought of average being in the ranges of 6-7inches.

Our discussion this evening seemed to hang on the thought that we women tend to insist that size doesn't matter because we don't want to see that look of insecurity and panic cross the mens faces. A man can be a bit portly, have a little love handle or two, be balding and grey....and the man will usually take this in his stride. Suggest he is 'average' in the penile sizage department and its sheer panic and a quick pulling back to the other side of the bed.

So are we women being dishonest and just trying to avoid bruised ego's....or does size really not matter? Its got to matter surely?

I have asked the womens equivalent question and asked if I am tighter than average. I was curious and especially so after the birth of my child. Which was strange as I had a c-section. But, part of me wanted to know how I compared (not that many of my partners have been particually prolifick in their sexual activities), and of course, if I had been told 'baggier than a bag ladies handbag'...I would have been devastated. I want to know I am choking the monkey with those worked-out and highly toned inner muscles. Well, they feel toned and worked-out to me when I go for a bi-weekly adventure in that area, but I want my partner to tell me that too.

So tonight we debated the merits and reasons for large and small and the end result was that the men did not seem particually at ease with the conclusion that we all seemed to agree on, which was yes, size does seem to matter to women.